When I started working in the fitness industry in 1996, I was taught to believe that to have the health and body you want, you must change your behavior. But I quickly came to discover that focusing on behavior is actually what caused people to fail. To not achieve their goals.
This aha led me to develop my 5-step system to help my clients reach their goals, for good. And I’m going to share it with you.
First, I know behavior matters. I’m not delusional. It’s just not the first thing, or even the second thing, to focus on. But if that’s where you start, you end up with the same results you’ve always gotten. On-and-off bursts of effort that leave you in a cycle of highs and lows. Defeated.
I’m going to share with you a very different approach to weight loss. And it’s not one you’re hearing amidst all the New Year hype this month. I’ll reveal to you my five-step system so that you can apply it to your health and weight loss goals.
My first step is “Uncover” and best explained by Carl Jung’s statement: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” And to make the unconscious conscious you must be open to the idea that what you think – or the way you think – could be wrong or incomplete.
Start with noticing the things you say when you don’t follow through, like:
- I don’t have time
- I’m too overwhelmed
- I fell off the wagon
- [something happened]…and then it was a downhill slide
- I’m addicted to sugar
Once you notice the thoughts, be open to the idea that they’re no more than words swirling in your brain. That they may not be true.
Here are three ways to open the door to that possibility:
- Find another answer: Ask yourself, “what else could it be?” or “what if I’m wrong about that…what might the real reason be? Be willing to be honest with yourself.
- Prove the opposite: As you reflect on the day, identify unhelpful thought patterns like “I blew it” or “I’m weak when it comes to sugar” and take 30 seconds to prove it wrong. Notice small ways you did something positive for your well-being or how you made a healthy food choice.
- No blaming: If you make a decision that you later regret, avoid attributing it to the words or actions of another person. Equally, don’t heap blame on yourself.The first is a lie (and takes away your freedom of choice) and the second is unhelpful and often has the effect of creating more of what you don’t want.
This first step of “Uncover” is critical because it’s these thoughts you have that are running the show! Wonder why you’re not following through? Why even though you know what to do, you can’t seem to do it consistently? This is where it all starts. But this is where people rarely get to and this is why they can’t get lasting change.
So now you know. To have the health and body you want, you must Uncover your sabotaging thoughts. Practice this the next couple of weeks and be on the lookout for step two of my five-step system.