Shaking Up the New Year: Fresh Ideas for Your Best Self

It’s that time of the year when we’re all thinking about the New Year. We’re dreaming big, envisioning change, and craving a fresh start. But here’s the kicker: how many of us get stuck in the “hope and wish” stage? 🙄

That’s because change is hard and uncomfortable. We want it, but inertia is strong. Then there’s the baggage of old beliefs – talk about a ball and chain. We’re our own worst enemies, and we don’t even realize it. Or we do, but we’re clueless about what to do next. 

Whether you’re fantasizing about a healthier you, an energy boost, or shedding some pounds (or maybe something entirely different), you’ve got to flip the script in ways you probably haven’t thought of. 

First things first, if your fresh start includes being a healthy hottie in the New Year without slogging through the same old diet and exercise regimes, lock in a session with me for January. Schedule it and forget about it for the rest of the month. We’ll have a heart-to-heart about your goals, what’s holding you back, and if it makes sense for us to team up.

Are you thinking about the New Year, dreaming about what you want to change and accomplish, about what’s possible with a clean slate?
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Now, let’s talk books – because knowledge, consistently applied, is power. Here are my three recommendations for hitting the New Year running:

  1. Essentialism continues to be my ride-or-die read from the last few years. If you’re a pro at never making time for what you claim to want, this one’s your new bestie. And if saying no and setting boundaries is like trying to wrangle cats, you should’ve read it yesterday. 
  2. The Big Leap will completely revamp how you talk to yourself. And it starts with better understanding yourself and noticing your internal conversations. Trust me; your inner monologue needs a makeover.
  3. Crucial Conversations is your ultimate guide to leveling up your personal and professional relationships when the stakes are high, emotions are running strong and opposing opinions abound – a game-changer for anyone’s life.

So, with only a couple of weeks left in the year, let’s take small steps to set ourselves up for a killer New Year. And while you may be planning and daydreaming about the future, don’t forget to live it up every single remaining day of this year. 🎉

And hey, if you want to talk with me about coaching together, I’m all ears. Let’s chat about the epic possibilities for your health and body. 🚀💪

3 tips on how to stay healthy during the holidays

People want to stay healthy during the holidays, so I asked the members in my FB group what small intention they could set and honor to carry them through the season.

One comment struck me in particular. A member decided that she could have See’s candy at any time of year, so she wouldn’t eat it during the holidays. Brilliant.

An article on the healthy holidays topic takes this even further, recommending that we de-mystify holiday food. That is, once we recognize that we can truly eat holiday food at any time, we can better control our choices.

But you might say, “I don’t eat pumpkin pie any other time of year.” Or peppermint bark. Or stuffing.

But you could. And that’s the point.

I recall the 1989 Christmas season, working as an accounting intern at a large insurance company. Boxes of Sees candy seemed to appear daily. And somehow, gratefully, I decided that I could eat my one or two favorites and leave the rest.

That was huge for me, because during the better part of the 1980s chocolate was one of my food groups. Really. Not kidding.

People want to stay healthy during the holidays, but what does that mean? Here are 3 tips to define and carry out "healthy" for you this season. Read more here:
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Here are my three tips on how to stay healthy during the holidays:

  • Start with the intention. And decide that it’s doable. Otherwise, if you think that it’s hard or, worse, impossible to control your behavior, you won’t make many healthy choices.
  • Define what it means. Eating. Exercise. Enjoyment. Downtime. What does your picture of healthy look like?
  • Plan to carry it out. I love the idea of standards. In his book Essentialism, Greg McKeown talks about the decision that makes a thousand other decisions. Like my member’s decision not to eat See’s candy. Think of the brain power freed up by not having to decide each and every time you’re presented with a situation to choose health. Decide beforehand.

And be careful of the “moderation” argument, as it can keep you in the murky middle. You find yourself saying things like, “at least I didn’t eat three desserts.”

Lastly, if you experience a moment of over-indulgence, be kind to yourself. It happens. The next moment is a new opportunity to hold to honor your intention and carry out your plan. Don’t excuse the behavior (that makes you more likely to do it again), but have self-compassion.

Maybe self-compassion could be part of all our plans. And not just during the holidays. 😊


How can we possibly be busy and bored?

I left home one day to run errands and decided to leave my phone charging on the counter. The amplifier in my car has problems, so I keep my radio off.

I got gas. No email to check.

I got a carwash. No Facebook to peruse.

I waited 93 long seconds at a stop light. No podcast or music to entertain me.

I rarely feel the boredom during these micro episodes of “nothing to do” because I don’t have to. That doesn’t mean I’m not bored. I’ve just found something to avoid it.

Avoiding boredom with calories and cabernet gets us more of what we don’t want. If we want to avoid eating when bored, we have to be willing to feel bored. Read more here:

I have a full calendar. To admit to being bored sounds ridiculous. I wondered during that short errand run, how is it possible to be both busy and bored?

But we rarely have to consider what to do about boredom because there’s always “entertainment” available. For example, working on a project you’re not enthused about? There’s got to be a tasty treat in the break room that’s more exciting than that spreadsheet or report. Or, a quick look at your phone will do the trick. Another dopamine surge and you’re scrolling instead of working. At least you’re not bored…

What to do about boredom.

But I think there’s a downside to that. Boredom can be a useful reprieve from busyness. It’s a chance to clear our minds, to brainstorm or visualize. (We can even come up with a blog post topic!) Using boredom as an opportunity to think clearly can be a valuable exercise.

I regularly coach clients around experiencing boredom without distracting from it. Eating, drinking, going online…these are all quick, easy boredom fixes that can have negative consequences. And the thing is, we don’t necessarily recognize it. Meaning, we don’t realize what we’re missing.

Keeping ourselves busy – whether with work, entertainment or “vegging out” – keeps us from “hearing” ourselves. Our true selves. Any angst we feel about something in our life never has time to surface…until it’s a huge hairball we can’t ignore. Then, it feels like it came out of nowhere.

Living our best life,  including being at our ideal weight, means experiencing all the emotions without distracting from them. Wondering what to do about boredom, sadness, disappointment? Feel them. Use them for your growth and well-being. Trying to avoid or paper over them with calories and Cabernet only brings  more of what you don’t want.

So, I have a challenge for you. Set up a specific five-minute period to experience boredom. Like being alone in the car with no music or podcast. Or waiting in line at the grocery store. Consider a boredom meditation. Use that time to breathe and reflect. To feel bored. And to be okay with it.  The more you practice, the less of a pull all those distractions will have on you.

Share with me below the results of your boredom experiment.

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