Break the All-or-Nothing Habit: Find Balance in Work and Life

Clients often tell me they want to have balance in work and life, but then struggle with all-or-nothing habits. It’s a pervasive problem, with more than half of them saying they grapple with it. Can you relate to this familiar tug-of-war? For instance, have you ever let a single bout of overeating derail your commitment … Read more

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How to keep consistent with healthy habits when life throws you off track

My dad likes to say that life is what happens when we’re making plans. My clients certainly find this to be true. They want to keep consistent with healthy habits but life always seems to block their best intentions. And the idea of work life balance starts to feel unrealistic. You know what though? So … Read more

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How to stay on track even when you don’t feel like it

You’re going along, following your plan. Your clothes fit better, and you’re feeling great. But then, inevitably, one of those days hits. Or maybe it’s a whole week. And suddenly, you find yourself thinking… “I’ve been good, I deserve a break.” “Today, I’m just not feeling it.” “I’ll get back on track… eventually.” Sound familiar? … Read more

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Reacting to pain: self-compassion or self-sabotage

At the end of April we experienced the unexpected loss of our cat, Emjai. He’d been with us 12 years since he was a kitten and it felt all too soon to say goodbye. He was like a family member to us, along with our other cat, Baby Girl. … Read more

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Start Acting Like a Two-Year-Old

I was in Trader Joe’s the other day when I overheard a conversation between a mother and her toddler. I couldn’t hear much of what the mom said, but the only word emanating from the daughter was “no.” It’s experimenting with that word that allows children to begin defining … Read more

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Feeling Motivated is Over-rated

More than 20 years ago I heard what is still my favorite definition of commitment: the ability to carry through with a worthy decision once the emotion of making the decision has passed. Emotion is what we tend to think of as motivation. We think we should “feel” like … Read more

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