Why is weight loss a dirty word?

Have you noticed the message that it’s not okay to want to lose weight? We went from fat shaming (which is NOT acceptable) to shaming those who want to lose weight? What on earth?!

I’m embarrassed to admit I was part of the problem.

I even told a potential client I wasn’t interested in helping her with a goal of slimming her belly, as though it wasn’t a worthy-enough ambition. Ugh!

There’s merit to the attitude of getting healthy to lose weight v. losing weight to get healthy. Constantly thinking about “good” foods and “bad” foods is unproductive; lamenting an increase in the scale works against you. 

We need to tune into our bodies. Appreciate them. Not pick them apart. 

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And do not think life will be better when you lose weight. Or worse, think that YOU will be better when you lose weight. You are worthy and amazing as you are now. 

But for someone to pretend that health is the only objective if it isn’t, is self-deception.  

And it’s harder to follow through consistently. Think about it. Half-heartedly pursuing health, pretending weight loss isn’t important, while wishing you could just fit into those slacks in the back of your closet…it’s an exhausting mental tug-of-war. 

That’s when I realized I needed to be honest with myself and help my clients do the same. 

It’s okay to want to look hot in a dress!

And feel confident taking pictures. 

And easily slide into that favorite pair of jeans.

No matter your age, if you want to lose weight, claim it. All of it. Imagine what’s possible for you and go for it. Full out. Improve your blood sugars; get off meds; be active with the grandkids; have a hot & steamy relationship with your sweetie; get back to hiking, kayaking, whatever you want to do. And have the body you want. 

I call it being a Healthy Hottie. 

What will you call it?

Have you tried losing weight without trying?

I bet your “scam” radar just skyrocketed, but hear me out. Losing weight without trying isn’t that crazy. 

I did it in 2019 by asking “What’s possible for my health and body this year? How can I take better care of myself?” Weight loss was a byproduct.

Try it. 

What’s possible for your weight and body  in 2023?

Do NOT base your answer on your past. Your past only equals your future when you let it. 

It’s hard to believe you can do something you haven’t done before. My clients always start out in some form of disbelief:

Jennifer K. felt like a “plump old lady”, hated exercise and ate when she was bored. Today, she’s 3 sizes down for 3 years and counting.

“I hate exercise and I love sugar,” said Chris C. who went from an XL to M, and now enjoys exercise and veggies, still leaving room for sweets 😊.

At 62, MIke V. couldn’t keep up with the outdoor sportsman lifestyle he loved. But after losing more than 40 lbs. he feels alive, “living the life I want.” At his last checkup, the doctor said they have nothing left to talk about! 😉

These clients didn’t use willpower. They changed what they believed was possible. One small step at a time.

Photo by Chang Ye on Unsplash

I challenge you to do it, too. Ask and answer these three questions:

  1. What do I really want for my health and body?
  2. What do I think about my body and my ability to achieve my goal?
  3. What’s the most helpful thought I believe about my body and my capabilities?

#3 is key. Don’t keep repeating something that your brain thinks is B.S. Try something that feels less negative, more neutral:

  1. Exercise isn’t my favorite thing (instead of “I hate exercise”)
  2. My past doesn’t have to equal my future (Instead of “I’ve never been able to do it/keep it off before)
  3. Maybe my body can change (Instead of “this is just how it is”)
  4. I have a body (Instead of picking apart everything you don’t like about it)
  5. Sugar isn’t the only thing I like  (instead of “I love sugar!”)

Start here. Don’t obsess about what you should and shouldn’t eat or push yourself to do exercise you hate. Losing weight without trying comes with consistent follow-through of healthy habits you genuinely enjoy. And that requires a rewire of your brain.  

Decide that this is your year to have the health and body you want. 

You don’t have to end up “back here” again. The actions are easy. You know what to do. Now manage your mind to get it done.

3 Expert Tips to Avoid the Holiday Hangover

With just two weeks left in the year, your energy may be waning and life may feel a bit hurried. In this state, even if you’re sticking to your healthy habits, without continued vigilance it’s too easy to let boundaries slide and put your goals and priorities on the sidelines until things settle down. 

But then you feel, well, icky. What I call a holiday hangover.

Holiday Hangover

So, take note of your priorities and use these three tips to create more ease and satisfaction as you finish out 2022 and, as a bonus, side step the Holiday Hangover:

  1. Recommit: Remind yourself what’s most important for you and your family these next two weeks and say “no” to the rest. It’s tempting to over-commit, because often it all sounds like fun stuff. But sometimes we take on too much because we feel obligated. Be protective of your time and spend it where it’s most valuable.
  2. Chill out: If people around you are crazy busy, be a light in the darkness. Do not get caught up in the I’m-so-busy or I’ll-never-get-everything-done way of thinking. And avoid getting sucked into someone else’s drama. You can observe and be loving, but you don’t have to participate. Take a breath. Relax. 
  3. Endure: Keep your healthy habits in place, even if you have to modify them. Sleep, movement, nutrition, hydration, meditation…whatever you do, keep doing it. The tendency is to succumb to all-or-nothing, putting these habits on the back burner. Be flexible, most definitely, but be determined. These habits keep you sane, healthy and give you the energy you need for these last two weeks.

Take 2 minutes: close your eyes and take a deep breath. What do you want the rest of this month to look and feel like? Be brave. Be intentional. And may you finish out the year excited for new possibilities in 2023!

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